Prepping for college starts far before senior year. You child needs to show years of volunteer/ community activities, sports participation, music/ arts, and special interests throughout their high school years. What makes them unique? What will set them apart from every other 3.5 GPA student on the wait list for universities? Here’s a list of things to focus on in high school to allow them to be the prized college applicant.

1. Learn another language: either learn from bilingual parents starting in childhood, or take 2-3 years of foreign language classes.
2. Be involved in a leadership role in your school: join special interest clubs and actually attend their monthly activities, join yearbook club, student council, or prom committee.
3. Volunteer through your church or community: animal rescue center, nursing homes, YMCA, anywhere where there is a need. Not just one weekend per year, but show long term commitment of volunteering of your time and talents to an organization that means something to your teen.
4. Sports/ music/ art: find your passion, be a good team mate, practice hard.
5. Travel: doesn’t have to be far or expensive, but let them experience a part of the world outside of their bubble.
6. Take ACT/ SAT early, and allow for a couple attempts, but don’t go overboard. It’s just one test score. Your child may have severe test anxiety and their score doesn’t accurately reflect their true ability.
7. Tour numerous college campuses, near and far from home. Research which colleges have the programs of interest for your teen and visit them so you get a feel for how the campus and city could support your (almost) adult child.
8. Take AP classes: this will get your teen ready for the fast pace of knowledge about to be thrown at them, and they can acquire college credit when they pass the end of year AP exams.
9. Get a part time job: babysitting, youth sports referee, waiter, anything. Some spending money is the bonus, the important thing is your teen demonstrating their ability to be on time and dependable.

About 3 percent of kids suffer from severe selective eating, to the extent that they can't eat out at a restaurant, said lead researcher Nancy Zucker, an eating disorders specialist at Duke University Medical Center in Durham, N.C.

Severely selective eaters are more than twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression or social anxiety, when compared with kids who'll eat anything, according to findings published online Aug. 3 in the journal Pediatrics.

Alaina Everett, a Cook Children’s licensed psychologist in Denton, says severe picky eating can be treated from a psychological/behavioral perspective as well as through oral-motor and sensory therapies and trying new foods for children who have severe selective eating can be terrifying.

“The fear is only intensified when parents make threats or express anger and frustration,” Everett said. “In our psychology department we emphasize the belief that kids do well if they can. Likewise they will eat well if they can. But there are obstacles that get in the way. Whether the original issue is a sensory processing disorder, oral-motor weakness or a gastrointestinal problem, all these kids have one thing in common, anxiety.”

From a psychological standpoint, these kids have had unpleasant experiences with food and the lingering trauma may be real. This is especially true for well-meaning moms who hide veggies in their kids’ favorite foods. If you have a seriously picky eater, Everett says this strategy will back-fire big time.

So how much anxiety can meal time actually cause?

“It is not uncommon in my practice to see children cry, scream, hide under the table, and quite literally shake at the sight of a novel food or when asked to join me at the table,” said Amanda Fyfe, a speech-language pathologist at Cook Children's in Arlington and Mansfield. “The anxiety severe picky eaters cope with is real and it can be intense. These kiddos often have months or years of negative food experiences fueling this fear, and unraveling it takes real work on everyone’s part. “

Fyfe says severely picky eaters:

• Have a significantly limited food repertoires (think 10 foods). These foods are probably similar in some way, although figuring out the rhyme or reason to what your little guy will or won’t eat can be mind boggling. It may be that his safe foods are the same color or have the same texture.
• Frustrate us with behavior that makes mealtime at home a catastrophe and eating out unheard of. He may refuse to eat with your family or cry and scream at the sight of the casserole you’ve so lovingly prepared.
• Refuse foods based on ALL sensory properties, including appearance, smell, texture, and taste. A picky eater may not even tolerate an offensive food on his plate. The sight of a non-preferred food may cause gagging, retching, and vomiting. Eating is more than simply chewing and swallowing. Interacting with, smelling, touching, and tasting are ALL important steps in the eating process. And disruption can occur at any step.
• May struggle to meet nutritional demands

“A child will not eat the broccoli and pork chops if you wait him out. He just won’t,” Fyfe said. “In fact, he may grow more and more rigid in his food selection because he IS hungry and grumpy. If a food or experience causes a child stress, discomfort, or pain, he will avoid it, plain and simple.”

Fyfe says these children are hypersensitive to foods in ways most of us might not even consider when planning our meals. Foods have to pass many tests before deemed acceptable for consumption, believe it or not, and severely picky eaters really put their meals to the test.

The first and possibly the most important test his dinner must pass? What it looks like. Children are acutely aware of the color of the food and may question why the color, shape, or size changes from bite to bite or from meal to meal. In addition, they might become overwhelmed by the smell of a particularly pungent food (think roasted broccoli, guys) and lose all ability to even consider tasting it. The texture of yogurt or pudding may cause a gag with incredible force. All of these reactions to food can lead to increased behavior disruption and meal time chaos.

“They can taste everything,” Everett said. “Zucchini pasta does not fool anyone and they are likely to stop eating pasta altogether. Presenting motivators like extra video game time can help, but it doesn’t solve the underlying anxiety. The scenario will just repeat itself when the next new food is presented.”

If your child shows signs of extreme picky eating, you will need some help. Talk to your child’s pediatrician about scheduling a feeding evaluation with a speech-language pathologist to determine the origin of the feeding woes and develop strategies to improve the eating experience for the entire family. A child psychologist may also be used if necessary.

http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/08/03/428016725/could-your-childs-picky-eating-be-a-sign-of-depression

https://childhealthanddevelopment.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/kaytoomey.pdf

About the author

Amanda Fyfe is a speech-language pathologist at Cook Children's in Arlington and Mansfield. Speech/language pathologists focus on oral motor, speech, language and communication skills to enhance development, restore function and to prevent disability from pediatric conditions, illness or injury. Click here to find the closest Cook Children's Rehabilition Services near you.