The affidavit included in one of the tweet's details an adult here in North Texas engaged in inapproapriate behavior with a 15-year old child in New Jersey.

It reads: “The victim stated he was playing Minecraft on his computer…and was contacted by a person wanting to chat.”

According to the affidavit, the conversation between the victim and the adult then moved to Skype which led to grooming, sexual messaging and even sexually explicit photos and videos being exchanged.

This is so awful I hate to even post it. But, it is so important to know what kind of predators are out there and what they are doing to connect with your kids.

Predators know what is cool. They know more than you do about what your kids are into.

They know how to reach kids and they will use whatever means necessary to connect with them.

Any app or game with a chat function that is connected to the Internet is a portal for exposure to terrible people with terrible ideas. Be aware and monitor! Turn off the chat function or have your child play in offline mode where able.

Of course, there’s more to evaluating an app or game than just the risk of exposure. Here are some general guidelines for evaluating both for your child.

About the author

Justin Smith is a pediatrician and the Medical Advisor for Digital Health for Cook Children's in Fort Worth, Texas. He has an active community on both Facebook and Twitter as @TheDocSmitty and writes weekly for Cook Children's checkupnewsroom.com. His interest in communications started when he realized that his parents were relying more on the internet for medical information. He believes that strategic use of social media and technology by pediatricians to connect with families can deepen their relationship and provide a new level of convenience for both of their busy lifestyles. Dr. Smith’s innovative pediatric clinic, a pediatric clinic “designed by you,” is set to open in Trophy Club in 2017.

But it doesn’t make her any less infuriated by the actions of an adult taking away the innocence of a child. Dr. Coffman said parents need to take certain steps to teach their children how to protect themselves:

1. Educate your children. Most importantly, educate your children about the dangers of predators. “The main thing is to educate your child and let them know what is not appropriate. What’s not OK,” Coffman said. “For children, young adults reading this, it’s not OK to be touched inappropriately. I don’t care who it is. Mom. Dad. Grandma. Grandpa. A family friend. A pastor. A police. A coach. It doesn’t matter who the authority figure is. If you are being abused, tell a trusted adult. If they don’t believe you or do something about it, keep telling an adult until someone does something.”
2. Start at a young age, making children aware of what is and what isn’t inappropriate touching. Dr. Coffman said at around 2 or 3 years old parents can use certain teaching moments to inform children on inappropriate touching. “When you are bathing your child that’s a good opportunity,” she said. “Make sure to name their body parts. I don’t care what you call it, just make sure your children know what their privates are called. During a bath or while they are using the potty, use that opportunity to teach them the difference between caregivers performing necessary child care during bathing or toileting and inappropriate touches. Let children know if someone else makes them feel funny or uncomfortable by touching them, to let you know.”
3. Let your children know it’s OK to talk to you. Generally speaking, Dr. Coffman said pedophiles don’t usually start out being extremely aggressive. They usually start with more generic touching and gaining the child’s trust. Dr. Coffman said that’s why it is extremely important to let your children know that they need to be able to come to you, as a parent, and let you know of anything that’s inappropriate. They also need to be assured that they will not get in trouble if they tell you they are uncomfortable about anything.
4. Communicate and report abuse. Let your child know to tell someone. Just letting someone know and reporting the crime can prevent a whole lot of tragedy.

Listening to this conversation got me thinking about some of the other parenting research I have done as a pediatrician and to help with our kids as they have been growing up. We all want what is best for our children, but sometimes figuring that out is difficult. But, as a pediatrician who is interested in learning and development, that’s what I’m here for. 

I decided to share some things with you that you might not have thought about before. Some of the studies are common sense and others have some pretty surprising results. Either way, I plan to offer lots of practical advice about how you can use the study to help your child learn and develop well.

Here are some of the questions I will answer over the next few weeks:

Is calling your child smart really a bright idea?

Why should everyone homeschool (don’t jump to conclusions here…wait for the post)?

Why do you want your kid to point (even if it’s not “polite”)?

And many more!

What questions do you have about how you can help your child learn and develop? Leave a comment below. If I don’t have a post that answers it, I’ll write it.

It's no question that social media has changed the way that we interact with the world. We went to a museum exhibit recently and I kept getting dirty looks, chasing after my boys because I kept walking in front of people trying get the perfect picture on their phone ... there's no doubt that I "photo-bombed" lots of Facebook posts, tweets and Instagram accounts that day.

We are more connected now with more people than ever before. The problem is the types of connections that these mediums tend to foster. Adults have a difficult time with many aspects of social media: deciphering true friendship, using caution when posting personal information and being careful not to say and do things because of the security and anonymity of being behind the computer. These three issues are even more difficult for teenagers to wrap their heads around.

So, when is the right age to let your child use social media? It depends.

It depends on so many things and there's not a simple answer but here are some questions you need to ask yourself.

1) What does your tween/teenager want to use it for?

I'm not sure what the answer you're looking for here is. My guess is that the most honest answer you would get from your child is," Everyone else has one." There are really different uses for some of the different platforms so you should probably weight each answer in the context of your child and the platform.

Facebook - You may not get many requests for using Facebook ... believe it or not, some reports say it is declining in use by our teenagers. Yogi Berra once said, "Nobody goes there anymore. It's too crowded." Facebook may be too crowded with adults to attract teenagers anymore. Nobody wants their parents to be able to see the pictures of them at a party. Many teenagers even say they have grown tired of Facebook because they are tired of the unneccessary drama that users are trying to stir. 

Twitter - Many tweens migrated to Twitter in 2012 and 2013. One of the most common reasons is that parents aren't there yet so it keeps them ahead of their parents' online presence. I think it also provides them a level of connection to celebrities that some of the other platforms don't provide. I got a picture of my boys retweeted by Vince Carter (@mrvincecarter15) last year and I have to admit I got a little bit of a rush from it. You can imagine what any amount of social recognition by one of your teen's heroes would provide. 

Instagram - Instagram seems to be a pretty quickly expanding social network. Teens seem to like the visual components to it and the rapidity with which they can post. It used to be popular because parents and adults weren't on the site, but we can get involved and ruin that pretty quickly (and it's started to happen already).

Snapchat - Snapchat is a way to share photos and share them with friends in a way that (in theory) cannot be stored on the phone. However, as with anything digital, there is always a loophoole and recipients can take a screen shot of the Snap and save it to their phone. When I ask my patients who have Snapchat about this, they say they only use it to take crazy or silly pictures of themselves and share them. Of course, no one I know is using them for sexting or anything less honorable (sarcasm intended).

2) Will you have access to the accounts any time you want?

Just like snooping on a cell phone, snooping around on your children's accounts without their knowledge doesn't work. What happens if you find something that concerns you? Do you address them directly, indirectly or just fret and worry about what you've found but not bring it up? You have to set a ground rule up front about what your level of supervision will be so that there are no surprises down the road.

3) How will you protect them from inappropriae content/behavior?

Social media has dangers and if we allow our children to be on them, we have to protect them from harm.

1) Predators - Unfortunately, this happens more commonly than it should. Your teenagers should not accept friend requests from people they don't know and should use caution about posting personal information.

2) Bullying - Your teeangers could be bullied online, but they could also be bullying others online. Teenagers often lose their inhibition when they are sitting at a keyboard and don't stop because they don't receive the feedback of a person getting upset like they would be if they were bullying in person.

3) Social acceptance - Teenagers commonly post things online in order to get acceptance from others. There is a growing trend of teenagers (especially girls) posting videos of themselves asking, "Am I Pretty or Ugly?" Of course, they get a mix of responses but many are aggressively negative and teenagers have a hard time moving past the negative responses or realizing that someone is simply responding to hurt them.

4) Social pressure - Teenagers have always had an intense anxiety to be cool. They have a desire to be wearing the "right" clothes, have the "right" friends and find themselves at the "right" parties. So, what has changed because of social media? All the same pressures are there but they are present in front of your teenagers 24 hours a day. They not only have to sort through all these issues, they have to post about them and read their friends posts about them, all the while struggling to keep up. It's exhausting just to think about it.

In summary, every teenager will eventually ask you for some form of social network access. Even if you don't have teenagers, it's important to start to think through some of these issues early so that you're prepared when the time comes. Discussing these issues with your teenagers before you give them access can prepare them to use social media in a healthy way.