Communication is the foundation for building relationships and the process of going back and forth between people. If you can’t play with others nicely, make and keep a friend, or understand directions from adults, it will be difficult to interact with others. Those skills begin forming very early with that beautiful smile, adorable laugh and silly babble as infants.

Every child develops communication skills at their own pace. How do you know if they are on target or if they need to see a specialist? We want to make sure your child has developed some of these skills by certain ages. Here are some guidelines on what your child should be doing by 12, 24 and 36 months of age…

If your child isn’t doing some of these things by these ages, don’t despair! Here are a few things you can be sure to try with your growing toddler…

• Imitate your baby’s communication, even if it is just a smile or coo. Adult conversation is all about turn-taking so teach this skill as early as possible!
• Play with sounds. Blow raspberries, cluck like a chicken, make fishy faces, and have fun doing it! This will help increase their awareness and their ability to make sounds.
• Talk about everything and give things a name! When bathing, feeding, and changing their diapers, talk about what you are doing. You might feel silly, but they are definitely listening!
• When your child makes an attempt at communicating, give them big praise, repeat what they said, and then expand it to a bigger phrase. (Example: “A car? Yes! That IS a car! Good job! Hi, car! Go, car, go!”)

You may feel as though your child just isn’t getting it. You may be right. It may take a higher level of intervention to get your child’s communication skills rolling. Speak with your pediatrician about a speech and language evaluation with your friendly speech-language pathologist. We’re happy to help!

About the author

Melanie Van Noy is a speech pathologist at Cook Children's.Speech/language pathologists focus on oral motor, speech, language and communication skills to enhance development, restore function and to prevent disability from pediatric conditions, illness or injury.

She is obviously looking for some sort of action on my part other than my smiling and nodding affirmatively. Since she’s my number one girl, I’ve learned the idiosyncrasies of her developing speech and know exactly how to handle this request. But to the layperson (or even Daddy or Grammy), I’m fairly certain I would need to come to the rescue with my toddler translator skills.

Mamas, I know you’ve been there. Your 3 year old launches into a monologue you find equal parts incomprehensible and adorable. Adorable, that is, until the tantrums and frantic attempts to understand and obey her demands kick in. In my practice, I have observed some masterful decoding mamas and some skillfully adaptive little ones navigating the waters of communication breakdown. Let’s talk a little bit about speech sound development and when to fret.

Articulation is the movement of the tongue, lips, soft palate and jaw to make speech sounds. It’s also the driving force behind your toddler’s incomprehensible speech. As parents, we are so excited when our little bundles of joy begin talking, but oftentimes, that excitement is quickly replaced with frustration when we realize we can’t understand a lick of what they’re saying.

An articulation disorder occurs when a child has difficulty forming speech sounds, most likely due to a structural or motor-based deficit. Most children tend to have some difficulty with certain speech sounds. Because creating sounds is challenging, he may substitute easy sounds for tough ones (think dumb for thumb), delete sounds (ha for hat), or distort problematic sounds (this is most often noted when children have a “slushy” quality). An articulation disorder occurs if these substitutions continue past the expected age.

Are all sounds created equal? In short, no. Children master sounds gradually. Most children can pronounce all of the speech sounds of English correctly by age 8. While each child’s speech sound acquisition is different, the following are age ranges in which most children master certain sounds:

• Introducing the “early birds”: Most wee ones will use m, n, y, b, w, d, p and h correctly between 18-30 months. That may explain why mama, dada and ball are frequently reported as first words.
• Not to be outdone, the middle of the road sounds includes: t, ng, k, g, f, v, ch and j. You may hear your little one utter these sound appropriately as early as 2 or as late as 6 years of age.
• Finally, the late bloomers include: sh, zh, r, s, z and th. This final pack of sounds contains the frequent offenders when it comes to articulation disorders. They are challenging for children to master and can wreak serious havoc on the clarity of their speech. We expect children to master these sounds between the ages of 3-8. (Based on Shriberg, 1993)

As children get older and learn new speech sounds, they gradually become easier to understand by a wider variety of listeners. Developing clear speech is a journey for our littles, albeit a frustrating one at times. And like all journeys, no two are equal. Some children are clear as a bell by their second birthday while others need a bit more time. As parents, we typically understand our babes before the rest of the world and therefore, are awarded the esteemed role of toddler translator. In many situations, one parent has a better handle on their child’s speech sound system than the other. But, as a general rule of thumb (or rule of “fum” if you happen to be a toddler):

• By 2 years of age children can be understood by familiar adults most of the time.

• By 3 years of age children can be understood by unfamiliar adults most of the time.

• By 4 years of age children can be understood by unfamiliar adults almost all of the time.

• By 5 years of age children can be understood by unfamiliar adults all of the time.

(Based on Flipsen Jr, 2006)

Although a continuum exists when it comes to speech sound development, there are a few red flags to be mindful of when chatting with your child.

It may be time to check in with your pediatrician regarding an evaluation with a speech language pathologist if your child:

• Uses only vowel sounds and a few consonants or shows limited babbling at 18 months.
• Seems to have a “slushy” (think mouth full of marbles) quality to his speech.
• Is difficult to understand and has a history of frequent ear infections.
• Leaves off the beginning or ending sounds of words (hatàha).
• Leaves off entire syllables of words (pa for purple).
• Is not understood by people outside his immediate family by age 3.
• Seems to be frustrated by his difficulty with speech or appears hesitant to interact or respond to peers or adults.

So what can you do to help him along?

Above all, it is important to always show your child you value WHAT he is saying regardless of HOW he is saying it. Always reinforce his attempts at striking up conversation with you! When you hear one of those adorable substitutions, help him to learn by repeating it correctly (If he says “tar” you can say “yes! A car!”) and moving on with the flow of conversation. Play face to face with him so he can watch the way your mouth moves to make sounds. Emphasize beginning and ending sounds in your own speech so he can hear them and begin to realize they are part of the word, too. If all else fails, ask him to SHOW you what he needs. And take comfort in the knowledge that this process is a gradual one.

Oh, and my daughter? She wanted to watch Frozen on the big T.V. and relax a little bit. Obviously.

1. Shriberg, L.D. (1993). Four new speech and prosody-voice measures for genetics research and other studies in developmental phonological disorders. Journal of Speech and Hearing Research, (36), 105-140.

2. Flipsen, P., Jr (2006). Measuring the speech intelligibility of conversational speech in children. Clinical Linguistics and Phonetics, (20) 4, 303-312.

3. http://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/SpeechSoundDisorders/

About the author

Amanda Fyfe is a speech-language pathologist at Cook Children's in Arlington and Mansfield. Speech/language pathologists focus on oral motor, speech, language and communication skills to enhance development, restore function and to prevent disability from pediatric conditions, illness or injury. Click here to find the closest Cook Children's Rehabilition Services near you.

You may be thinking, “Am I the only parent in town dealing with dinner drama every night?”

The answer is no. It is reported 25 to 45 percent of typically developing children experience feeding and swallowing problems, while a staggering 30 to 80 percent of children with developmental delays struggle with mealtime (Arvedson, 2008).

Now for the million dollar question: what causes feeding problems? There are several factors that can impede a child’s ability to develop a happy, healthy relationship with food, including: sensory processing disorders, gastrointestional complications, prematurity, and dysphagia.

Food should be fun. And for most of us, it is just that. But children may not see eye to eye with us when it comes to mealtime, causing this to become a stressful time for the whole family. Little ones can be incredibly stubborn when it comes to food choices.

Most parents have described their children as picky eaters at least once or twice. However, it is important for parents to know the difference between “picky eaters” and true problem feeders and when to seek assistance.

Picky eating can be a typical stage in normal development. Ready for the skinny on picky eating?

A picky eater will typically:

• Accept approximately 30 foods. That may sound like a lot, but it’s really not.
• Tolerate a new food on his or her plate and may even taste it once or twice. This new food may become a new favorite. But then again, it might get tossed on the floor. This truly depends on the child’s sensory reaction to the food in question.
• Eat meals with his or her family, but requires different preferred foods.
• Eat only one food from each food texture category (puree, crunchy, solids,etc).
• Consume one preferred food consistently, and then suffers “burn out” and refuses to eat this food for a period of time (picky eaters will usually begin to accept this food again after a brief break).
• Eat new foods after frequent exposure.

So, how can you nudge your picky eater toward the leafy greens and save your sanity? Here are a few simple suggestions for success at the dinner table regardless of whether you’re serving pizza or brussel sprouts.

1.Develop a routine and stick to it. Offer meals and snacks at about the same time each day

2.Don’t force feed or bribe your child to eat. This will likely increase refusal behaviors or even worse, bring on a power struggle.

3.Offer a variety of foods, including 1 to2 of your picky pumpkin’s favorite items, at the family meal.

4.Persistence is key! Remember not to shy away when he shudders at his first taste of peas. You may need to offer those peas up to 20-25 times before he will tolerate them.

5.Explore food with your child. Talk about the way it looks, smells and feels. Invite her into the kitchen to help you prepare the foods. Bring her along to the grocery store or farmer’s market to choose a new fruit or vegetable. Star fruit? Why not?! Eggplant? Coming right up!

6.Make it fun! Serve fruits and veggies with dips. Use cookie cutters to make a Shamrock Sandwich for St. Patrick’s Day or Santa for Christmas. Eat dinner by candlelight. Serve breakfast for dinner. Better yet, have everyone put on their coziest jammies for a pancakes and PJ’s party. Get creative!

7.Practice what you preach! This means you, parents. If you want your little ones to eat salad for dinner, you will need to dive into that bowl of greens yourself and forgo the drive-thru on your way home. Our children are always watching and learning from our actions and habits.

8.Don’t become a short-order cook. If your child refuses the family meal, it can be tempting to head back to the kitchen to whip up the macaroni and cheese he is coveting. Resist! This may promote picky eating.

Now, let’s get down to business. While picky eating can be frustrating, it is a typical stage in normal development. However, problem feeding is a true disorder that requires specialized assessment and/or intervention and is downright disheartening for parents. A child that does not eat well can evoke feelings of anxiety, fear, and helplessness, leaving caregivers struggling for a solution.

A problem feeder may:

• Eat fewer than 20 foods.
• Refuse the bottle/breast or drink a small amount and then refuse during infancy.
• Refuse an entire texture category (for example, a problem feeder may refuse to eat all pureed foods).
• Not accept new foods on his plate and may cry, scream or tantrum at the sight of a new food. Problem feeders may even gag or vomit at the sight of an offensive foods.
• Be unwilling to try new foods, despite multiple exposures.
• Eat the same food over and over, but once he experiences “burn out,” he will most likely not go back to eating that food. This will cause him to slowly, but surely, shrink his group of tolerable foods.

If your child is showing symptoms of problem feeding, talk to your child’s pediatrician regarding a feeding evaluation by an occupational therapist or speech-language pathologist. A thorough evaluation is necessary to determine the best course of individualized treatment for your child.

Hang in there, parents. There IS hope! Our feeding therapists are trained to help your child with a wide array of feeding difficulties.

References:

http://www.asha.org/PRPSpecificTopic.aspx?folderid=8589934965§ion=Incidence_and_Prevalence

http://www.sosapproach-conferences.com/articles/picky-eaters-vs-problem-feeders

Resources for Parents:

www.feedingmatters.org

www.yourkidstable.com

About the author

Amanda Fyfe is a speech-language pathologist at Cook Children's in Arlington and Mansfield. Speech/language pathologists focus on oral motor, speech, language and communication skills to enhance development, restore function and to prevent disability from pediatric conditions, illness or injury. Click here to find the closest Cook Children's Rehabilition Services near you.

Don't despair, however. A diagnosis of dyslexia doesn't mean your child will struggle to read the rest of his or her life. Help that can train your child to adapt is available.

Though the root cause of dyslexia is still under investigation, we do know that it is a neurological learning disability and can run in families. Children with dyslexia process words differently than other children do, and as a result, have difficulty mastering language skills.

"Many children with dyslexia are undiagnosed," said DeeDee Hernandez, MS, CCC-SLP, a speech language pathologist and certified dyslexia tutor with Cook Children's Rehabilitation Services Northeast Clinic. "Parents should be on the lookout for signs that could indicate the child has dyslexia, especially if the learning disability runs in the family.

Know the signs

Young children with dyslexia may have trouble rhyming, recognizing letters, learning their sounds, pronouncing words and learning sequences – such as the days of the week or letters of the alphabet.

Signs in school-age children include trouble with spelling, gripping a pencil, mastering handwriting, learning new skills, comprehending math and following a sequence of directions or putting letters in order.

Teenagers with untreated dyslexia may struggle with learning a foreign language, managing their time, reading aloud or at an age-appropriate level, memorizing things and grasping the concept of jokes and plays on words.

Because dyslexia is a neurological disorder and not a visual problem, special glasses and exercises have not been shown to be effective.

However, speech language pathologists such as Hernandez help children with dyslexia learn the pivotal building blocks of language. She recommends parents seek specially trained professionals for help with dyslexia.

For more information

With rehabilitation locations in Fort Worth, Hurst and Mansfield, Cook Children’s provides specialized support for children in need of audiology, occupational therapy, physical therapy and speech therapy. To make an appointment, talk to your primary care pediatrician or call 682-885-3898.