If you don’t know her name, you more than likely have seen her photo because she has blown up the Internet with a photo of her breastfeeding her own son and the son of a friend.

For some it’s a beautiful expression of what’s perfectly natural. For others, it’s caused a range of emotion from “yuck” to outrage.

And for our lactation experts at Cook Children’s, well, they look at it as an opportunity to educate the public.

The lactation nurses at Cook Children’s have been busy working and had not seen the photo making the Internet rounds until called for this story. They realize that it makes many of us uncomfortable in the United States to see such a bold expression of a natural process. But they say it’s a common practice in many other countries around the world and accepted and sometimes expected culturally.

From a medical aspect, the lactation experts say milk sharing is becoming a more common practice but not without risks. There are numerous transmittable diseases that can be passed on through a mother's milk as well as many medications that will be passed on through milk too. As milk sharing is becoming more common there are even websites out there where people can share breastmilk with one another. Again, caution must be used when sharing breast milk.

To be perfectly safe, for those babies that have a medical need and prescription for breastmilk, they recommend a place like Mothers’ Milk Bank of North Texas, which allows moms to donate breastmilk. The mothers go through a screening process and is then the milk is pasteurized to make sure there’s no harmful bacteria.

The consultants hope that people don’t focus on the photo as much as they do the benefits of breastfeeding.

And for those of you wondering, “Aren’t those kids a little old to be breastfeeding?” Come on. We know a lot of you are. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding babies until at least 2 years of age.

The lactation nurses aren’t willing to weigh in as far as the emotional aspect of the picture or how it impacts them developmentally. Breastfeeding in a personal choice and one that we hope every mother will attempt. How long to feed your baby is personal and will be very different for each mother. At the end of the day, breastfeeding is supported by the World Health Organization, Center for Disease Control, the American Academy of Pediatrics just to name a few.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of a baby’s life, “followed by breastfeeding in combination with the introduction of complimentary foods until at least 12 months of age, and continuation of breastfeeding for as long as mutually desired by mother and baby.”

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Because research shows that breast feeding helps improve babies' health and helps moms bond with their little ones, Cook Children's has full-time lactation specialists on staff to assist mothers with pumping and breastfeeding. We offer breast pumps in every room and have an on-site milk bank available for safety and storage. There are numerous resources available through lactation services for moms that are having difficulty with nursing/pumping. While other nurses are focusing on the baby's care, the lactation consultant can provide extra attention to mom.

The anger and subsequent anxiety I felt after hearing about “The Newborn Sleep Book” surprised me. I am not a “crunchy” pediatrician by any means. I have taught families to sleep. This is why the feeling I got in my stomach is unexpected.

The book is written by two pediatricians in New York who happen to be brothers, Lewis and Jonathan Jassey. The premise is that, through proper training, you can space a newborn’s feeds out to every 4 hours, resulting in them being able to sleep through the night. Their recommendations include: allowing them to cry until their scheduled feeding time, using Benadryl^® for sleep disruptions and increasing feeding volumes during the day to enable skipping nighttime feeds. It’s not the fact that they recommend sleep training; it’s their method that I find upsetting.

This goes against everything you are likely to hear from your pediatrician (certainly me), including the American Academy of Pediatrics. The AAP says some newborns feed as often as every 1.5 hours, while others about every 3 hours. The AAP also says breastfed newborns will feed 8-12 or more times per 24 hours once a mom’s milk has come in.

Oh and here’s something else important from the AAP: “If your baby isn't waking on his own during the first few weeks, wake him if 3-4 hours have passed since the last feeding.”

So that’s a group of 62,000 pediatricians’ recommendations who I tend to agree with on most things and two pediatricians who I couldn’t agree with less.  But I’m not finished making my case. Here are 8 myths I found particularly bothersome in the book:

1. MYTH: The authors have “continually researched and practiced (their) method, adjusted, and practiced some more.”

FACT: The best report of their results is this: a “ballpark estimate is that, since we started coaching parents …over 15 years ago, nine out of 10 parents who have followed through have been successful.” My scientific mind is not satisfied and neither should yours. I am not asking for a randomized, double-blind placebo trial, a simple survey would have been better than a “ballpark” estimate.Very few things in medicine have a 95 percent success rate. So, if you have the research, prove it … if not, it would not be that hard to get.

2. MYTH: Their method is the best way to get your child to sleep through the night.

FACT: The results I do see reported in the book are underwhelming. Their testimonials of patients who began to sleep through the night, included children with ages ranging from 6 weeks to 3 months.  A 2010 study in Pediatricsshowed that 37 of 75 babies were sleeping through the night during their third month. If you took testimonials of parents from that study (which are often the best case scenario), I would imagine you would find plenty of babies who would be sleeping through the night just as early as the Jassey families, many with no fancy plan.

3. MYTH: The authors are Ok with saying that their method may not work for everyone.

FACT: They go on to say later, “sleep training is by no means selfish on the part of the parents. In fact, since its benefits to both baby and family are undeniable, we might say that not sleep training…is a more selfish choice.” First of all, “undeniable?” Not so fast. That is still up for debate. I guess everyone has the right to make their own choices, even if they don’t mind making selfish choices, by not sleep training their children. It’s like saying; there really are no dumb questions, unless you ask a dumb question.

4. MYTH: Scheduling, even from a very early age poses no risk to babies.

FACT: Scheduling from birth as they suggest is dangerous and puts babies at risk, period. Not feeding on demand puts moms at risk for lactation failure. Their recommended 8-12 feedings (for 1-2 days) on demand is not enough for many moms to establish good milk supply. Ask any lactation consultant or pediatrician who understands milk production and they will either laugh or cry at the suggestion that scheduling this early will not affect milk production. In addition, infrequent feeding places babies at risk for increased weight loss and more severe jaundice, which requires further treatment and testing. If you are my patient, please do not schedule your baby from birth!

5. FACT: Crying babies are not all hungry (I actually agree with them, up to a  point …)

MYTH: You should never feed a baby before the time you have scheduled for them.

FACT: The authors state that our first response to a crying baby should not always be to feed them (again, I agree). However, I feel that we can go through our usual steps to comfort them (change diaper, pacifier (if a family chooses), rocking, etc.) and if they do not work, it is reasonable to attempt to feed.

6. MYTH: The authors state that they do not endorse formula feeding over breastfeeding.

FACT: Their method involves careful measuring of volume to ensure your baby gets enough each day don’t “have” to feed at night. Breast feeding simply does not work this way. A breastfeeding mom can’t simply feed a little bit longer… when the breasts are empty, they’re empty. So, while they may not endorse formula feeding, their method could push families toward formula feeding.

7. MYTH: If your baby’s sleep is disrupted for any reason (teething, vaccines, etc.), a combination of Tylenol^®, Benadryl^® and Motrin^® will help to “reset their clock.”

FACT: Uhhh, not for my patients. If your baby is fussy and you think it might be pain from teething, I am Ok with giving a dose of Tylenol or Motrin, but not along with Benadryl. The benefit is slim and the risk of an adverse event (whether appropriately or inappropriately dosed) is too high. Of course, they also mention using teething gels and you should know how I feel about them. There is no reason to treat a normal developmental stage with medicine.

8. MYTH: Feeding your child on their schedule means they will not “become hungry at inconvenient times-like 2 a.m.”

FACT: Parenting is about facing inconveniences. are ways to help your child fit into your life better than others, the very premise of this statement offends me. I’m sorry if your little baby woke up and tried to bother you at night for something to eat. I hope it wasn’t too much of an inconvenience.

The authors do address a concern in their book. It happens to be about co-sleeping, but that’s not important to them:

“We are inherently suspicious of any parenting technique that is so obviously weighted to the parents’ wants over the potential benefits to the child.”

Huh? Me too. This is why I would never recommend their book to my parents.