Ewing, who plays Dylan on the hit comedy Modern Family, opened up about how he obsessed over his looks in a recent op-ed piece in the Huffington Post. He says that he has faced eating disorders, depression and body dysmorphic disorder, a condition he describes as a “mental illness in which a person obsesses over the way he or she looks.”

Reid said that he would take pictures of himself, analyzing his looks, before deciding he needed plastic surgery. He said he felt ugly and that his looks were unacceptable.

Reid describes in great detail the horrible pain he went through during his initial surgery, cheek implants and yet felt the need to do it again. He says that no one gave him a mental evaluation, except to ask if he suffered from depression (he did), to learn of his history of eating disorders.

Joy Crabtree, PsyD., a psychologist at Cook Children’s, says that the insecurity and body dysmorphia often develops during adolescence, and they become more unhappy as they get older. In some situations, the discontent may develop in childhood, and start with a specific dislike for a certain part of their body or over focus on a perceived flaw.

“I like how the article makes the point that therapy is a great place to start before jumping into big cosmetic surgery decisions,” Crabtree said. “I think standard protocol requires some level of psychological screening for most bariatric surgeries as well.”

Crabtree says people sometimes don't think of boys dealing with these body image issue, but she treats boys struggling with eating disorders and their own looks.

One in 10 of those diagnosed with eating disorders are male. Moreover, nearly a third of adolescent boys participate in unhealthy weight control techniques, like skipping meals, smoking cigarettes, vomiting or taking laxatives (National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders). The American Psychological Association says males are less likely to seek treatment for an eating disorder due to the perception that it is a disease that only affects women, but the shameful secret isn’t just a girl thing.

Issues with eating and problematic concern over weight usually begin during adolescence or young adulthood. According to Joy Crabtree, PsyD., a psychologist at Cook Children’s, “This is typically a higher time of stress in general, and also a time when bodies are changing quickly or rapidly; this creates more discomfort with their self-image. Additionally, sometimes males are involved in sports where there is a focus on either gaining or losing weight, which can contribute to eating challenges as well.” Crabtree notes that eating disorders tend to occur among those who have perfectionist tendencies. “Increased stress can be a contributor, as well as unreasonable goals or ideals for meeting or maintaining a certain weight in order to participate in certain sports,” she observes.

To tackle the issue, Crabtree says schools should make their staff aware that males can suffer from eating disorders in addition to female students. Coaches and athletic personnel should be careful not to set unrealistic standards for their athletes and reach out to students and their parents if they see unhealthy patterns developing. In the meantime, though, the responsibility to identify problematic concern over weight or an unhealthy relationship with food lies with a boy’s parents.

Parents need to remember that eating disorders can be even more problematic in young men due to their reluctance to come forward. Watch for boys who develop a focus on eating only “healthy” food, counting calories, step on the scale a little too frequently or exercise excessively. Crabtree recommends “ensuring your family has a healthy focus on body image in general without a frequent or specific focus on weight, food intake, calorie counting etc. Try to stress balance in food intake and activity or exercise for overall health.” In addition, get input from your primary care physician regarding whether your child is in the average weight/height range or needs to focus more on eating a more balanced diet.

For boys diagnosed with an eating disorder, the treatment approach would not necessarily be different than it would for a girl. Crabtree stresses, however, that “the clinician must be aware and sensitive to the fact that they may be more avoidant or resistant to treatment in general, as well as less inclined to be open or honest about the issue as it is not as frequently seen as a male issue or concern.” Parents can help their teenaged boys to gain perspective on what is typical or average and what is extreme and unhealthy. Just as with young girls, it is important to stress that the celebrities they see on television or in the media are not typically “average” bodies. Parents can’t change societal pressures, but they can foster healthy behaviors and a realistic outlook on body image within their own households.

About the author

Natalie Raymond is an associate marketing specialist at Cook Children’s. She graduated from Texas Christian University with a Master of Science in journalism and certificate in business in 2014, and has a background in strategic communication and health care communication. Natalie enjoys doing her part to help our patient families stay healthy and spends her spare time with her eight furry friends (also known as pets).

Pure knowledge of someone’s eating disorder is enough of a burden to create a second victim. I know because that was me.

Hearing the words “I have an eating disorder” from a 17-year-old girl to her best friend is not completely uncommon. And as that best friend, I can tell you the minute her mouth spoke those words, her problem was now mine.

She described to me in depth why she decided to tell me about her eating disorder now – the disappearance of her period, her fainting spells and being worried about her overall health. All things I would have never noticed yet in turn, made me feel like the worst best friend in the whole world.

When you receive that kind of information, without experience, how do you respond? Especially when your best friend begs you not to tell, it’s like asking a 17 year old – would you rather lose your best friend by choice or by chance?

I found myself eating less when I was around her because her thoughts were becoming mine. I started to lie for her, weakening my character and increasing my guilt. Her eating disorder was destroying her physically as well as emotionally, and bringing me along for the ride.

It has never been and never will be her fault. She cannot control that she has been overtaken by this disease and it’s important that she seek help from those she trusts the most. But as a caregiver, you can’t let the disease control you too. You have to stay healthy to give her the care she needs.

So what can you do?  For me, asking for help, regardless of her asking me not to tell anyone, was the best decision I could’ve made. I talked to my mom, my own pediatrician and my school counselor about what next steps could be taken to get her well again. Bottom line, I could not cure her on my own.

They say ignorance is bliss. But I learned at a young age, ignorance, in this case, can kill.
 

About the author

Caroline Gayler volunteers in the public relations department at Cook Children’s Health Care System. She is a senior at TCU majoring in Strategic Communications.